Although TraumaTime is long past, many survivors struggle to create a life that is safe, peaceful and meaningful. It is as if we are somehow jinxed. We start out with good intentions and end up with the opposite of what we wanted. Sometimes that’s because we don’t have the support or resources we need and […]
DID
Helping masochistic parts
CN: We talk about sexuality, pain, BDSM, (organized) abuse and explicit problems with masochism that can happen after extreme abuse and offer interventions that include sex education and experiments with sexual pleasure. Please don’t read this when you are unstable and stop reading when you get triggered too much. Like, now. If you are already […]
Overcoming patterns of appeasement and submission
We think of appeasement as a collection of social behaviors that aim to restore a safe relationship and maybe attachment with another person who is perceived as more powerful or threatening. If we gave them any cause to be angry with us, we need to fix it and make them calm down and like us […]
Unintentionally destabilizing a DID System
There are a lot of individual things that can go wrong in DID therapy. And there are also predictable patterns where a certain type of mistake will lead to a certain type of problem. Of course that won’t fit every system on the planet. But it fits often enough to be more than random. We […]
Techniques of science denial and DID
CN: this article mentions organized abuse, ritual abuse, mind control, abuser organizations, stigma and infuriating bullshit There is a lot of misinformation out there about DID. Some of it is based on a lack of knowledge and we can help by pointing towards scientific resources. In other situations, what we encounter is plain denial […]
The Fractionated Abreaction Technique (Kluft)
Fractionated abreaction is a technique that was specifically created to process extreme abuse and memories that are so atrocious that other techniques fail because we get flooded and overwhelmed instantly when we remember what happened. An abreaction is a situation where we remember and re-experience a memory and when that happens accidentally and uncontrollably […]
Finger Signals in DID Therapy
Especially early in our therapy we will run into situations where it would be necessary to communicate and negotiate with other parts but we can’t because we haven’t established a line of communication yet. We don’t hear these parts and they don’t have a way to reach us except maybe through creating symptoms in our […]
IRRT for Complex Trauma and Dissociation
IRRT stands for Imagery Rescripting and Reprocessing Therapy. It is a technique for processing trauma memories that mainly uses imagery and self states to resolve situations that are stuck. Instead of blunt exposure we change the story in our head and take care of our younger self to achieve changes in our symptoms. IRRT […]
Reducing Amnesia – Developing Co-Consciousness
I wish I could offer you smart tricks on how to reduce amnesia, but I don’t know any. What I know is boring and takes time. First we try to fill in the gaps in our knowledge through inner communication. Later we practice co-consciousness to avoid having amnesia altogether. The solution for not having […]
Intentional Switching (DID)
Teaming in DID requires the ability to switch on purpose. That way, parts with special abilities can manage situations when that is needed. Maybe a well-oriented child part is remarkably good at holding still and that would be an advantage when we need to get an MRI. That is certainly a better solution than forcing […]
Dissociation that looks like Psychosis
There is a phenomenon that can look like psychosis but it is dissociative in nature and treating it like psychosis won’t do us any good. When we take a close look we will see that it makes perfect sense and that we can solve it with simple SystemWork. It is possible for parts to […]
Cornerstones of the therapeutic relationship
Dr. Karen Treisman writes about the therapeutic relationship: The relationships are the glue and the magic that make the strategies meaningful, purposeful, and therapeutic. This is in line with the sayings ‘Relational trauma requires relational repair’ and ‘Relational repair requires safe hands, thinking minds, and regulated bodies’. Without the relationship to anchor to, the […]
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