DID doesn’t mean having several people stuck in one body. We are all parts of one person, yet we are different from each other. Without acknowledging that there is a difference, a separation, a split, we cannot heal. We need boundaries between parts to reach our goal of connection. Avoiding this reality by trying to […]
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Epiphany #4: The Hive
“What is bad for the hive cannot be good for the bee” (Marcus Aurelius) It is an illusion that parts of a DID system can have their own life and not influence each other. We are not different people, we share the same brain, the same body, the same life. We deceive ourself, if we […]
The Inner Garden (DID-adapted guided imagery)
The guided imagery of the Inner Garden is not one of the „useful“ exercises that are necessary for trauma therapy like the safe place or containment. It is one that is supposed to help you with relaxation and some DID systems like to have their team meetings there. As with all imagery work you should […]
Improving relationships with T.A.R.A.
Someone I respect often says that “you can’t change the people around you but you can change the people around you”. Concerning other parts of the DID system this is not an option. We are stuck with each other. Parts are different, it’s how DID works. We also often split into opposing extremes, which means […]
Being with our Selves: Integration for structural dissociation
If we experience repeated and ongoing trauma, especially as a child, our ability to make sense of us and the world will get hurt. We can’t integrate our experience of pain and apparently normal life, a perpetrator being a caregiver and an abuser, us being innocent and feeling guilty, feeling shame and anger and helplessness […]
Team Meetings and conflict solving (DID SystemWork)
Roll calls can help your DID System to manage situations in daily life, but they are not enough to support your SystemWork long-term. You need something that is equally organized, but that allows for more of a conversation than just a short report. You need a team meeting. [There is actually no need to have […]
Resource Game for DID SystemWork (ft. Unicorn)
A while ago we created a resource-oriented game to play with our DID system. We were looking for a playful way to get together and do things that create a relational experience as well as lift our mood and support our DID SystemWork. (If you don’t have DID, keep reading to find out how you […]
Balancing a dissociative System (DIDSystemWork)
For years I have been on a quest for balance for our DID system. Not just ordinary balance, perfect balance. We started out in chaos and I restored daily structure. I restored rhythm and routines and a system for adulting. And everyone was thankful for that. Then I tried to establish a daily schedule, with […]
Taking down Goliath – integrating abuser-imitating parts
Most DID systems have a Goliath inside. A Giant, strong, mean, abuser-imitating, who comes forth to intimidate and declare war on us. Often we stand there like the Israelites, scared and convinced that we are doomed. I will share with you the 5 stones a David could pick up to face a DID Goliath. They […]
Characteristics of a good DID Therapist
DID Systems often have good intuition about who can help them. We are open to share with therapists who show certain characteristics, even if they are not specialists yet. We looked at the last 10 therapists we worked with and compared them. Here is what we found (in no particular order, not claiming that it […]
The inner Archive (SystemWork)
During Phase 1 of your therapy (stabilization) working through traumatic memories is not the main focus. But that doesn’t stop trauma memory from coming up. So, what do we do with that? The answer is containment. We have already introduced you to the basic and advanced version and one that is littles-friendly. Now let us […]
Roll call (SystemWork)
There are different ways to “check in“ with yourselves, but the shortest one is probably the roll call. Roll calls are usually done with the military or police. Everyone get in a line, is called up by name and responds by giving the information asked for. It is an organized and structured way to check […]
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