[CN: We talk about patterns of neglect and injuries from not getting the help we deserved. The target audience are people who experienced torture and those who try to help them. It is painful to read when this has been your life experience. It might also trigger shame in those who tend to blame themselves […]
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Integrating abuser-loyal Parts
Abuser-loyal parts often feel closely attached to abusers and hold warm feelings for them like love, gratefulness, awe etc. In the past, that was a helpful survival strategy because it has an appeasing effect. The efforts to please these people granted us more safety. We also split up the inner picture of abusive people in […]
Consolation and Comfort
Those who are sad need comfort. We may not know the concept of consolation because we never experienced it and had to hide inside a thick shell because grief would have been too great to bear alone. Engaging in consolation then requires courage. The emotional pain sometimes comes up very suddenly when someone offers us […]
Integrative Actions in Trauma Processing for DID
The concept behind trauma processing is usually to bring up the traumatic memory in a controlled setting, use an intervention to break up the fixed way in which it got stuck and then support the brain in re-organizing the memory in a new and more connected/integrated way. That is why you will find the term […]
Screen Technique in Trauma Therapy
For the Screen Technique, trauma patients are asked to imagine their memories like a movie on a screen. It is supposed to create some distance to the memory to avoid flooding. The memory is not happening right here right now, it is just on the screen. The pictures on the screen can then be changed […]
Micro Imagery to Change your Mood
A lot of traumatized people report that they cannot work with guided imagery because there is too much room for negative pictures or memories to come up. In this short-form approach you get instructions to focus on imagining one sensory experience after the other. The instruction is repeated twice and then you are asked to […]
Preparing for Trauma Processing for DID
We can treat trauma processing like any other difficult situation and prepare for it by making a BDA Plan. It is a structured way to make sure that we have everything we need so that the therapy session can go smoothly. Being informed and organized takes at least some of the stress out of a […]
Integrating our Body in Trauma Therapy
Trauma creates a disconnection from our body. Sometimes it shows in numbness for physical sensations and needs. We don’t feel hunger, cold or pain. It makes taking care of ourselves difficult and we might neglect our body. A lot of trauma survivors think of the body as their enemy. Something that needs to be avoided […]
In the Mirror of the Other (advanced)
Our own integration starts in the thinking mind of our therapist I wrote that almost exactly 3 years ago when talking about the therapeutic relationship. As I move into later phases of therapy it seems to me that this is one of the most profound things I have ever said. So please forgive […]
Winter Break / Winterpause
Those of you who have been around for a while know that we usually take December off to focus on our own system. It has been a busy year, trying to help others, online and through advocacy work. We need to do things for ourselves for a couple of weeks to restore our energy. We […]
Misinterpretations of DID-related behaviors (for helpers)
When we have DID, it is incredibly easy to get a misdiagnosis because the behaviors that we show based on our trauma history or inner experience get misinterpreted by mental health professionals. Common misdiagnoses are all kinds of personality disorders, bipolar disorder or schizophrenia. In some cases, we might show isolated behaviors that are considered […]
Grounded Rescripting with dissociative parts
In Rescripting Techniques we work with the traumatic memory by looking at the scene and then changing things about it in our imagination to resolve the situation and bring it to a new and better ending. It is often done in the form of a rescue mission where our present self or adult parts enter […]
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