The Bible tells us that mankind was made in the image of their Creator. What does that mean? I believe that we were designed to be creators too. Creators of our own life. I am pretty sure that our modern standard life of going to school, working 9-5, marriage, kids, a house and a dog […]
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Compass of shame
Chronic shame accompanies trauma and (together with helplessness) it seems to be the most destructive feeling we experience. We don’t have 5 steps to end shame. We can just share bits and pieces of insight about this. It’s not going to be enough. We haven’t found a way out of shame yet. Some T’s believe […]
Aromatherapy part 2 (essential oils for depression and dissociation)
This is the second part of our interview with an aromatherapist, discussing how essential oils can be used to support people with PTSD. In this part we will speak about depression and dissociation. You can find the first part here Aromatherapy part 1 (essential oils for anxiety and insomnia) Theresa: We are back with more […]
Aromatherapy part 1 (essential oils for anxiety and insomnia)
This post is based on an interview I had with an aroma therapist. Aroma therapy is the half-science of how to use essential oils to support health and well-being. We met to discuss the use of essential oils for the problems that accompany PTSD: anxiety, insomnia, depression and dissociation. Theresa: Hi! Thanks for having […]
Unpunishable (core values)
One of the reasons for our great success with system work are the core values and beliefs it is based on. We believe that control over other people is a myth. You can try to force people, try to manipulate them, but in the end they always have a free choice, if they want to […]
guilt – a christian solution
One of the main themes of the Bible is the question of how to solve the problem of sin and guilt. Guilt is as old as mankind, starting with Adam and Eve, who made a free choice to break the one rule given to them “do not eat from this tree”. The rest of the […]
Dealing with Guilt
For trauma patients it is normal to struggle with feelings of guilt . You are not alone with this. Let’s look at the difference between guilt and shame first. We like these short definitions: Guilt is thinking that you did something wrong. Shame is thinking that you as a person are “wrong”. Dealing with […]
Story of a Listener
This is a story someone in our system once wrote Once upon a time in a distant country there was a millers son named Robin. He was a younger son, so he did not inherit the mill, which wasn’t bad at all cause he didn’t care about milling that much. He spent his […]
The 3-minute-challenge (difficult days)
Some days are just hard. You feel weak, exhausted, mere discipline doesn’t work and you start to feel overwhelmed when thinking about all the stuff that needs to be done. This will just make you feel weaker, more stressed and you will do even less. Time for the 3-minute Challenge. The goal is to get […]
The BASK-Safe (advanced containment)
Especially when you are in the middle of trauma work you might experience that your common containment safe or whatever imagery you use for containment might not work as long as you would like it to or small pieces escape your safe. That is when we use a “BASK”-safe to lock things away for good. The […]
How to work with Skill-Lists
Lists with Skills are awesome and inspiring. But you need to work with them to shape them into a tool you can use. This post will help you organize your Skills so that they are ready when you need them. When it comes to Skills I want to give you biblical advice: “Test them all; […]
Skills for Yellow area (6/7): Distraction
This post is based on The window of tolerance Because our main goal is to stay within the window of tolerance, we need to learn how to regulate ourselves within the yellow area. We distinguish between self-regulation and relational regulation. Most people favor one or the other, but it is important to be able to use […]