Many people confuse self-care with acts of self-love. Self-care is not about being „kind“ to yourself. It is about doing the most basic things to keep your body healthy and going. It is a necessity. If you want to be healthy you need to take care of yourself. If you struggle with self-love you can […]
self-care & life-skills
Rhythm and Routines
Nature moves at the sound of a silent melody. It is full of rhythm. Day and night. The moon, ever increasing and decreasing. The tides that come and go. Autumn following summer, every year. Blossoms, fruit and new seeds for blossoms. Humans are part of nature and we carry our own rhythm with us. Breathing […]
Managing Menstruation (Life Skills)
If you are male-bodied this will not be of any use for you. Feel free to keep reading though, if you are interested in PTSD-related struggles with female menstruation. If you have a female body and this is concerning you, please make sure that you are properly grounded before reading. This post contains mention of […]
Shopping Queen – on a budget (Life Skills)
The place where you can cut costs the most is food. But you don’t want to compromise with your health! The best way to save money on food is to learn how to cook. Fastfood is expensive and/or seriously unhealthy. Make eating out special by not doing it. Pick a few meals you want to […]
Living on a Budget (Life Skills)
PTSD and DID often means not being able to work full-time, if at all. It comes with financial struggles. Learning how to live with less money becomes an important life skill. To live within your means you need to know what you have and what you are spending it on. Start with a list where […]
Going to the doctor/dentist like a pro
Going to the doctor is part of basic self-care. It can save your life. Regular medical check-ups help notice a problem before it gets so big, that it will be serious. It saves you money but also protects you from more intense procedures and possibly death. For many trauma survivors doctors appointments are difficult and […]
The 5 pillars of stability
Create greater stability for your soul by investing in more stability for your body. Your body is not a separate thing. What you do to your body will always have an effect on your soul as well. You can use this and influence the well-being of your soul by taking care of your body. We […]
negotiating sleep (SystemWork)
If you have DID all the rules of Insomnia – basic sleep hygiene apply, you just might have to work harder to establish them. There are several different reasons why sleep might be a problem for you. Sometimes certain parts like to stay up at night. They consider it „their“ time. Find everyone who might enjoy […]
Insomnia – basic sleep hygiene
Insomnia sounds like a small problem compared to flashbacks and dissociation. But the pain is real. The whole being is effected, body, emotions, mind. Insomnia is a symptom that in itself increases other symptoms. Your risk to have a flashback or dissociate is higher, when you are tired. It can have an influence on your […]
The 3-minute-challenge (difficult days)
Some days are just hard. You feel weak, exhausted, mere discipline doesn’t work and you start to feel overwhelmed when thinking about all the stuff that needs to be done. This will just make you feel weaker, more stressed and you will do even less. Time for the 3-minute Challenge. The goal is to get […]
Skills for green area (prevention of dissociation)
This post is based on The one most important concept you NEED to know to stop dissociation: window of tolerance To avoid dissociation we are trying to regulate ourselves within the yellow and green area. Strictly speaking, skills for the green area are not “skills” as we know them. They qualify as “prevention” but I want […]
Planning for anniversary reaction (difficult days)
You might have noticed, that there are certain times of the year that always cause you to struggle. For many survivors those are christian holidays birthdays pagan holidays anniversaries of trauma … This is called “anniversary reaction“. PTSD symptoms usually spike during these times, flashbacks, body flashbacks, depression and anxiety are common. The positive thing […]